How healing upsets with my Twin Flame looks for me in Harmonious Twin Flame Union
I wanted to write this post to share some day to day things in the life of Twin Flames in Harmonious Union. Being in Harmonious Union has been a blessing for my soul which I was able to achieve using the full suite of support available in the Teaching of Union, from watching TFAS to healing on my own with the Mirror Exercise.
One mention before I start sharing is that being in Harmonious Twin Flame Union doesn’t mean you don’t experience any upsets with your Twin Flame whatsoever. The one key difference I feel in my life is truly feeling one with my Twin Flame, no matter how upset I am with him or how many apparently stupid things he is doing. No matter how uncomfortable I am with what he is presenting or not matter how hurt I am by what he is presenting, I know that we are one. Even when I am incredibly upset with him and I am angry and hurt and what I am thinking about doesn’t make any logical sense, I know we are One. I don’t see myself as separate from Laurentiu in any way. The degree to which I feel this is very visceral and real. The only way I could make a comparison is like this:
Let’s say I am cutting vegetables to make some food. In the process, my knife slips and I cut one of my fingers on the left hand. There is only one being here so yes, I did hurt myself in the process. This is how I see being in Harmonious Twin Flame Union feels like. However, to choose separation from your Twin Flame would mean, in this example, that the left hand would see itself as separate from the rest of the body and rip itself away from the body from being upset about the cut happening. Or the left hand commanding for the right hand to be chopped off from the one one organism as a punishment.
This will be key in many things that I will describe below.
Usually the day and the interactions between us are pretty peaceful. We have cultivated this through a lot of healing with the Mirror Exercise and the study of the Teachings of Union. But, as I mentioned, there are still upsets coming up. One of the recents upsets I experienced with Laurentiu was him not giving attention to me. This was a simple Mirror Exercise to do. I simply realised that I wanted his attention and then did:
Step1: I am upset with Laurentiu because he’s not giving me attention
Step2: I am upset with myself because I am not giving myself attention
Step3: Is this true? Yes, since I am looking for him to give me attention, I am clearly not giving attention to myself.
Step4: See that part of me. She needs love and attention from me. She feels peaceful and then I integrate her.
I did this Mirror Exercise without stopping what I was doing. I did it while working on some things for my business. There are many upsets like this that I heal without needing to stop my day to day activities. I just notice them and move through them and I can be in the flow of things peacefully.
But things don’t always go that way…
Recently one of the bigger upsets I had with Laurentiu was about playing together. I started playing some Minecraft again with some friends. I felt good about it and I felt there was a deeper purpose for me playing related to my Life Purpose too so it was all juicy. I didn’t invite Laurentiu to play at first because I know he doesn’t often enjoy playing Minecraft. However as I started playing… he insisted that he joined me. I didn’t think much of it but I was happy that he wanted to play together. So… we started playing. It was all great, we established ourselves and we were starting to get ourselves established. We were having fun and after some time Laurentiu left the game to play some other game. I found it odd and this is where I got a bit upset but I didn’t notice it until later on. So Laurentiu comes back into the game, we play and then, at the end I ask him: “So, how did you enjoy playing together?” and he answers something on the line of “Oh well I didn’t like the server because reasons reasons.”
My heart sank and that’s when my upset from before really got to the surface… but I wasn’t fully clear on what I was upset about. I just felt rather hurt in my heart from his saying that, even if technically the reasons he gave were valid. We started to have a fight/argument about it where I practically snapped at him for “not liking the server”. He wasn’t peaceful about playing and I wasn’t peaceful about him not playing. We often get into predicaments like this where we’re both kinda upset but because of different reasons. As we were fighting, I realised that I was upset because he didn’t have fun with me.. So onto the Mirror Exercise:
Step1: I am upset Laurentiu doesn’t have fun with me
Step2: I am upset I don’t have fun with myself
Step3: Is it true? Yes
Step4: I choose to have fun with myself.
As soon as I healed this, (I did the Mirror Exercise as we were talking) Laurentiu shared he was having fun with me but not on the server because reasons reason and that’s why he left. Then my next upset came up where I realised I was upset because he left me as we were playing so I felt he didn’t value playing with me (even if he didn’t really communicate that, that’s how I felt so I must honour and mirror it). So, mirroring:
Step1: I am upset that Laurentiu doesn’t value playing with me.
Step2: I am upset that I don’t value playing with myself.
Step3: It’s true
Step3: Choose to value playing with myself and loving myself there.
So after I mirrored this, Laurentiu expressed that he was upset that in order to play with me he had to play something that he didn’t like, so then he moved through that with the Mirror Exercise on his own as we were talking (I know he healed because I felt the energy shift as we were speaking more about the subject). One thing that I brought up was that yes, the server was not perfect but we can’t expect it to be perfect. I noticed I was upset because Laurentiu wouldn’t play with me unless the game would be perfect but games right now are not really perfect so I felt like we would never play. So, mirroring:
Step1: I am upset with Laurentiu because he won’t play with me unless the game is perfect.
Step2: I am upset with myself because I won’t play with myself unless I am perfect
Step3: Ouf, big true.
Step4: Love myself and accept myself
Again, both me and Laurentiu were moving through things like this as we were discussing about our feelings and shouting at each other a bit lol
After healing this Lau admitted he was expecting games to be perfect and let that go and chose to have fun regardless… but I was still quite upset. I was upset that he didn’t realise he abandoned me while we were playing so I felt that he could abandon me at any time. Ok, mirroring.
Step1: I am upset that Laurentiu doesn’t realise when he’s abandoning me so he can come back
Step2: I am upset that I don’t realise when I am abandoning myself so I can come back to myself
Step3: True
Step4: Love myself more :)
After healing this, Laurentiu noticed he was numb in this place and acknowledged he would like to know how to see these things better. He was doing this because he didn’t see the game as something he could heal about so when the game would upset him he would numb out because “the game was not good”. I helped him move through that which was a big important healing for our Life Purpose.
This whole healing was a conversation I had with Laurentiu in… maybe 30mins to 1h where there was shouting and disagreements involved. From the outside it might not have looked like we did healing at all but I chose to heal regardless. I know that if I choose to heal, Laurentiu chooses to heal because we are One. I moved through some upsets and Laurentiu moved through some other upsets. We worked together to achieve this healing, even if maybe it didn’t look like the most polished discussion we ever had. We definitely had worse tho lol.
It’s relieving to do your inner work with your Twin Flame because you can SEE how your healing changes the mood and the atmosphere in the room as soon as you love yourself.
I didn’t feel like Lau was valuing me? I chose to value myself. Lau expressed how much he valued me.
It’s that instant. I didn’t do the Mirror Exercise so I could get value from Laurentiu. I did it so I could feel peaceful and for us to have a good relationship. Because I did that, he naturally aligned with my choice. I didn’t need him to value me after doing the Mirror Exercise, but he naturally aligned in valuing me because we are one.
Ever since HTFU, I don’t see something only as “Laurentiu’s thing to heal”. We both move through things together and we each have a piece to the healing. I don’t separate myself from him whenever he hurts me, because I realise he’s not actually hurting me, but helping me see something that I couldn’t see before. And I know that if I heal what he is presenting, our relationship will improve and there will be more love between us either way… so why not do it? I do it. I would need to heal regardless so why do it later rather than sooner? Sometimes I do postpone my healing… and it’s silly… but I’m still learning. I’m still going deeper with the teaching and with doing the Mirror Exercise. It wasn’t always as easy to do the healing while we were in the middle of a discussion, but with practice it became easier and easier.
Do you want to learn how to do the Mirror Exercise and heal separation - with your Twin Flame? Then https://twinflamesuniverse.com/ is the place to start :) You can do it!
