Twin Flame Codependency: What it is and how to heal it
Do you feel like you rely on your Twin Flame for your happiness and sense of self-worth? Do you often find yourself putting your Twin Flame's needs above your own, even to the point of neglecting your own needs? If so, you may be experiencing codependency in your Twin Flame relationship. Codependency is a common unhealthy pattern that people develop, and it can seriously affect your relationships, including the one with your Twin Flame.
What is codependency?
Codependency is a term that originated in the addiction field and has since been used to describe a pattern of relating that is characterized by excessive emotional or psychological reliance on another person. According to the psychological approach, codependency is a learned behavior that develops in response to growing up in a dysfunctional family system. In this type of family system, there is a lack of emotional support, inconsistent or inappropriate parenting, and often the presence of addiction or mental illness. Children in these families learn to adapt to their environment by developing coping mechanisms that often lead to codependent behaviors later in life.
On the spiritual side, codependency is seen as a lack of self-love and a lack of trust in the Universe/God. When we feel that we need another person to complete us, we are not trusting that we are already whole and complete in ourselves. We are not trusting that the Universe has our back and that we are always being guided towards our highest good.
How codependency affects your Twin Flame relationship?
Codependency can have a serious impact on your Twin Flame relationship. When you are in a codependent relationship, you may feel like you are not enough on your own and that you need your Twin Flame to feel complete. This can lead to clinginess, jealousy, and other behaviors that can push your Twin Flame away. When you are in a codependent relationship, you may also find yourself sacrificing your own needs and desires for your Twin Flame's needs and desires. This can lead to resentment and a lack of balance in the relationship.
How to heal codependency with your Twin Flame?
If you recognize that you have codependent tendencies in your Twin Flame relationship, the first step towards healing is awareness. You must acknowledge that there is a problem and be willing to take responsibility for your own healing. Here are some steps you can take to heal codependency with your Twin Flame:
Use the Mirror Exercise
The Mirror Exercise is a powerful tool for healing codependency in your Twin Flame relationship. You can learn the Mirror Exercise from various resources like this video and of course this book. Doing this exercise regularly can help you to develop a sense of self-love and trust in yourself and the Universe. Here are some examples of Step 1s you can do to help you heal codependency:
I am upset that my Twin Flame does not give me the love and attention that I need.
I am upset that my Twin Flame does not prioritize me in their life.
I am upset that I sacrifice myself to be with my Twin Flame.
I am upset that I don’t prioritize my needs over the needs of my Twin Flame.
I am upset that my Twin Flame doesn’t recognize my love.
I am upset because I don’t feel enough for my Twin Flame.
Explore if you might have trauma that needs to be healed
Codependency often stems from childhood trauma. If you have experienced trauma in your past, it is important to work through it in order to heal your codependency. For this, the Mind Alignment Process is highly recommended.
Practice healthy boundaries
Setting and enforcing healthy boundaries is essential in healing codependency in your Twin Flame relationship. This means saying no when you need to, taking care of your own needs, and communicating your boundaries clearly to your Twin Flame.
Why living without codependency is freeing?
Living without codependency is a truly liberating experience. When you are not relying on another person for your happiness and sense of self-worth, you are free to be your authentic self and pursue your own interests and passions. You are also free to have a balanced, interdependent relationship with your Twin Flame, where both of you can bring your best selves to the table and cultivate a healthy, joyful and enriching relationship.