Twin Flame healing cycles and how to navigate them

Have you ever wondered why things seem good between you and your Twin Flame, only to then have everything turn upside down and you are back into disagreements, ghosting, fights, or other similar unpleasant situations?

Going through this can definitely make you feel discouraged, lost, confused and maybe even make you doubt your healing abilities. This apparent vicious cycle can happen to anyone, from a new person starting on the Twin Flame journey, to a veteran that knows how to apply the Mirror Exercise and already has access to Twin Flame Ascension School. In fact, even me and Laurentiu experience this ALL THE TIME. So… what is it then?

The surprising reason as to why stuff keeps coming up between you and your Twin Flame

You might be surprised, but there is an actual reason to this phenomenon and it has to do with your Ascension journey as Twin Flames. In the book Twin Flames: Finding Your Ultimate Lover, Jeff and Shaleia describe the Stage of Harmonious Twin Flame Union, one of them being “The Upset Stage”. They share how it wouldn’t be compassionate for you and your Twin Flame to experience ALL the upsets between you all at once. God wouldn’t make the process of coming into Harmonious Twin Flame Union impossible for you, so therefore you experience the upsets between you and your Twin Flame in cycles. Essentially, in order for you and your Twin Flame to come into Union, and then Harmonious Twin Flame Union… and then Perfect Union, you must refine your vibration through healing. As you continue to purify and heal yourself, your vibration rises. As your vibration rises, you become more and more sensitive to things that are not in alignment with love so therefore you experience a new upset. When the new upset is healed, your vibration rises again and you again become more sensitive to new things that are out of alignment with love which points to a deeper upset. And so on, and so on until we are free of all our upsets and we arrive in Perfect Union. (Note: You do not need to have all your upsets healed to be with your Twin Flame, just the ones relevant to the core of your separation.).

Why does the new cycle feel so bad?

Ok, so now that we understand what is happening, and we understand that this is a natural process that happens as we keep healing and we keep rising our vibration … why does it feel so bad and why do I feel discouraged in my journey because of it?

There can be a few reasons as to why you feel this way and I will address them one by one:

1) You think that the fact that this is happening is wrong - Hopefully what I shared above makes you see that this process is the most natural thing to happen between you and your Twin Flame as you heal and rise your vibration. The fact that you experience upsets is natural in your journey and you shouldn’t criticize yourself or your Twin Flame for going through this experience. You can instead focus on healing the new layer that is coming up to be healed. The sooner you heal the new layer, the sooner you can relax into the new level of love that you are manifesting in your Life and in your Union.

2) You are being hard on yourself or your Twin Flame - When the new cycle might come up, you might mistake it for an old cycle that you have already healed through. Remember that some of the blocks we heal are presented to us in layers, therefore we might need to face the same energy again and again until we arrive at the core. Even if the energy is the same, in truth you are approaching a new facet of that energy that you have not approached so far. However, if you don’t see that this is the truth of what is happening in your healing, you might put yourself down and start doubting your healing. Just because you are moving through the same energy OVER AND OVER AGAIN doesn’t mean you are not healing. It might simply mean you are experiencing a core block. In some cases, it might also point to having a trauma which you will need to receive the proper support in order to heal. The same can apply for your Twin Flame as well.

3) You are trying to control your healing journey - You might think you are done with the energy presented and you should be healing something else that is more important for you right now :) Well… in truth we never know what is the best thing for us to heal. We must surrender here and allow God to show us the way to healing separation from our Twin Flame. We cannot do it “our way” and if you keep holding onto that, you will find yourself hitting your head over and over again in the actual energy that you need to heal. You do not need to chase your healing, but simply be present with whatever arises and heal through it.

Does that mean I will experience upsets all the time?

I know what you might think - wait, if I raise my vibration through healing I will keep experiencing upsets… what’s the fun in that?

Again, God wouldn’t make this journey uncompassionate for us. Jeff and Shaleia share in the same place in the book that there are natural pauses in between healing cycles that happen. You can choose to sync with the cycles in this manner and not only have breaks in between the cycles but also be able to predict when the next cycle of upsets should come up. Of course, this takes mastery over the inner work, self-awareness and compassion to distinguish but it can be something you achieve and relax into.

What if I never seem to be able to catch a break?

If you think you might experience cycle after cycle at an accelerated rate, then you might want to consider if you are spiritually backlogged. To be spiritually backlogged means that when a new cycle started, you didn’t heal it until the next cycle came by. At some point, being spiritually backlogged can cause separation between you and your Twin Flame because being around your Twin Flame means that these cycles will keep deepening simply through their presence in your life. Because of this, it wouldn’t be compassionate for you to be with your Twin Flame while you still have not healed through everything they have presented to you. You must move through the upsets already presented in order for you to successfully move to the next cycle. Moving through the cycles means that you rise your vibration and therefore your Twin Flame can be in your life in a more sustainable way.

Your Twin Flame might also come back in this space in order to see if you have moved through the cycle presented or not. Your Twin Flame will always reveal where you are at spiritually and it is one of the gifts they bring through simply them being in your life. You must understand and appreciate this side of the relationship too, not only the side of the relationship you want. You must appreciate and accept what having your Twin Flame in your life means fully and completely in order to manifest your Union and Harmonious Union.

How to navigate the healing cycles?

Now that we understand better what the healing cycles are, how do you move through them? Simply by choosing to do the Mirror Exercise and heal everything that is being presented to you. Allow the love between you and your Twin Flame to deepen as you see this is a natural process of you coming into Union. Have compassion with yourself and your Twin Flame as you are moving through the upsets and remember that both of you are partnering in this way to become your True Divine Selves and this is part of why these healing cycles happen to begin with.