How to attract your Twin Flame to you?
If you have read anything about Twin Flame, your might know about the infamous “Runner-Chaser” dynamic and how people seem to be stuck in this vicious cycle with their Twin Flame. Maybe you have found yourself in this dynamic too. :) Even if not, when you experience Twin Flame love you are immediately compelled to look more into it, to find out what you are experiencing and how to have this love for all of eternity.
How to know if you are chasing?
Chasing is the opposite energy of attraction. In order for us to fully understand how to attract, it would be helpful to understand what it means to chase and how we can identify in our lives if we are chasing. To do a bit of dictionary work, let’s look at the definition of “to chase”: pursue in order to catch or catch up with. To clarify even more, let’s look at the definition of “to pursue”: follow or chase (someone or something) or persistently seek to form a sexual relationship with (someone). From the definitions, we can see some awareness starting to form about what chasing is and how we can identify it. Let’s start with the act of “catching up with”, as described in the definition of “to chase”. To catch up with something implies that you are not in the same space with that something and that you perceive yourself to be behind that something. If you have any idea about spirituality, you can see how this energy comes from a place of separation. Particularly with Twin Flames, it would mean that you perceive that your Twin Flame is somewhere else than you are, ahead of you, and you need to catch up to them in order to be with them. That would imply that you can be separate from your Twin Flame and you need to somehow find yourself back to them. This energy is exactly the energy of separation because you are one with your Twin Flame in Divine Truth and neither of you is ahead with anything and there is no catching up to be done.
If you are not convinced yet how chasing comes from a place of separation, let’s look a bit deeper at the definition of “to pursue”. To persistently follow something implies that you do not believe you have that something already. Going deeper particularly to Twin Flames, if you persistently seek your Twin Flame romantically, you might not be aware of the full extent of the relationship and the ulterior motive (be it sexual or something else) implies that you do not desire to have a loving relationship with your Twin Flame, but you invite them to satisfy you in a certain area, potentially by taking from them in that space. Of course, this energy is repulsive because no one desires to taken from in any way.
Switching from chasing to attracting
Now that we understand what chasing is, let’s look at attraction and what is the definition of “to attract”: cause to come to a place or participate in a venture by offering something of interest or advantage. The definition that Shaleia gives in Twin Flames: Romance Attraction about attraction is: uniting by drawing in or inviting the energy that you desire to have and/or experience in your life. These definitions imply that you are doing “something” in order to cause what you desire to come to you. It implies that you have something of interest what is desired by what you desire to attract. With your Twin Flame, it implies that you invite your Twin Flame into your life and you portray yourself as a suitable partner for them to be interested in you and come to you naturally, because they are awakening to the desire they have in their heart to be with you. And more, you don’t simply portray that as a facade, but you embody that. You ARE that.
So, the biggest difference we can notice between chasing and attracting is that when you are in a “chase” energy you actually feel you do not have what you desire. You come from a place of lack within. On the opposite, when you come from an “attractive” energy, you realized you have what you desire (and what your Twin Flame desires). You come from a place of abundance within.
When you understand this key difference, it can help you fundamentally not only in your Twin Flame journey, but in all areas of your life. Understanding this is the first step. The second step and the most important step is shifting your consciousness from a place of lack to a place of abundance within.
On top of that, when you are abundant within you will never come off as “needing” anything from your Twin Flame. While this might seem like a bad thing, it is actually not because it allows you to communicate that the reason you desire to be with your Twin Flame is because… you love them! Not because you want to get something from them which would instantly put them off.
Being a suitable partner for your Twin Flame
At the end of the day, your Twin Flame is also a person with needs from a romantic partners. Yes, you do align in perfect harmony in truth, but you do have to be honest right now if you are in a space where you are a suitable romantic partner for your Twin Flame? Asking yourself this question should come with a lot of maturity when answering. If you looking only at certain aspects of your relationship (maybe like looks) you will fail to see what you have to become so you can be with your Twin Flame. Have you done your own Love List and saw what you valued there? The first and foremost thing you have to ensure is that YOU embody that Love List.
You want your Twin Flame to respect you? Well, are you respecting them? Are you respectful in relationship?
Do you want your Twin Flame to commit to you? Well, are you committed to them? Do you honor your commitments?
And beyond looking if you are like that with them, are you like that with yourself too? Do you respect yourself and do you commit to yourself too?
All of this aspects would need to clarified and hashed out for you in your Union so you can have a stable and harmonious foundation.
How to increase your inner abundance and cultivate attraction in your Twin Flame journey
We cannot talk about this topic without mentioning Twin Flames: Romance Attraction. In this course, you are able to learn exactly how to become highly attractive towards your Twin Flame. You can dive deep into learning how to become attractive and magnetic towards your Twin Flame. It’s on the top recommendations for this and it’s well worth it’s price.
However, to give you something to start off with, start by healing yourself and the places where you feel lack within with the Mirror Exercise. Do you feel not good enough? You can heal that. Maybe you feel like you need your Twin Flame to feel good? You can heal that too. Address the topics to the best of your abilities NOW and choose to cultivate an attractive life style and way of being. You CAN be highly attractive to your Twin Flame and in truth you already are because you are the Perfect Lover for them too.
